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A BURGLAR DROPPED a testicle when he broke into the home

Thursday, July 10, 2003

A BURGLAR DROPPED a testicle when he broke into the home of pensioners Joyce and Leslie Edwards.

The clumsy thief slipped as he tried to climb through their window and sliced off one of his testicles on the shards of glass caused when the pane shattered under his weight.
The raider's plight was discovered by 80-year-old Mrs Edwards who heard the sound of crashing glass in her bathroom.

He was screaming blue murder but I was in no mood to be sympathetic.

When she went to investigate, she found the man dangling half in and half out of the window - his private parts firmly impaled on a vicious spike of glass and blood pouring from his wounds.

"He cried out to me 'I'm dying, please help me' but I was so cross I shouted back 'good!' and ran out of the house," said sprightly Mrs Edwards.

The thief, who had tried to climb in through the Edwards' metal framed windows at their bungalow home in Crowthorne, Berks., had slipped as he tried to open the top quarter-light.
Moments later his feet crashed though the big frosted glass window, sending lethally sharp fragments everywhere.
Worse was to come because as he slid forward, the glass sliced his right testicle, his groin was cut in numerous places - and he became trapped by his belt which hooked over the window handle peg.
Mrs Edwards said: "He was screaming blue murder but I was in no mood to be sympathetic.
"He was trying to burgle our house while we were asleep and goodness knows what he might have done if he had got into the house before we woke up.
"There was blood everywhere - I have had to burn everything including all the carpets because of the mess. The whole thing has upset me a lot.
"My husband is 90 and deaf and he suffered a stroke last year so he wouldn't have been able to do much about the intruder if he had actually got in.
"People might say I am hard or callous because I said 'good' when he said he was dying but I'm not a bit sorry. I am afraid he deserved what he got," added the pensioner who helps her sons run an electrical business in Crowthorne.
"I'm sure I recognised him as one of the chaps who did a botched job after offering to Tarmac our driveway. No doubt he realised we were both elderly and a bit deaf and that's why he tried to break in after dark."
Mrs Edwards was too shaken to be able to press the button on her phone to dial 999 when she found the burglar, but instead ran to her neighbours who called police, paramedics and firefighters.
One of the rescuers at the scene said later that the injured man, aged about 35 years, had been impaled on the glass for almost an hour before he could be released.
"He had lost between three and four pints of blood from his severe and very painful wounds," he said.
"Blood was literally pouring from his groin, cascading down the wall from the window where he was dangling and running into the bath.
"Firefighters, who had to stand in the bath to help remove the glass before he could be lifted to safety, were literally paddling in blood."
The burglar was later taken to Frimley Park Hospital, near Camberley, Surrey, by ambulance and detained for treatment. Police formally arrested him on suspicion of burglary
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Don't care if it is real it is funny as hell and cheered me up, thanks freedom!

look what Friend sent me...!

Aren't they the most beautiful....GRASSHOPPERS... not flowers.
thanks friend!

my resolution

well to keep up what I have been doing for the last 2 1/2 months, lose weight...
I have lost 36 lbs in that time.
I am having pain in my pelvic girdle, I think related to my procedure in September.
they want me in the cat scan the limit is 450lbs I am at 462lbs.
I am having so much pain that it is painful to work out. I am still moving but I have change my diet, including liquid calories.
I still have 12lbs to lose till the 450 mark I am working towards.
I should be a little under, I think that will help, I have stopped trying to think 400lbs and start thinking 450lbd and work with that.
I have been losing and gaining from 450 to 500lbs for the last year and a half. the same 50 lbs.
so under 450, will be really nice.
so I lost weight at thanks giving, and Christmas, how great is that.
that folks is hard work.

so for the new year more of the same, Making me a priority, and my health and happiness.
so I look forward to all of you and my journey in the coming year, another year to make positive changes and love myself.
Adora

thanks Jesse!

these awards are from Jesse http://theartofjesse.blogspot.com

thanks Jesse, these are for any one that wants them, no conditions, lots of love Adora!

how did you break in the nEW YEAR??? OR WHY i LIVE WITH dUMBASSES!

I have told you about the Cave Troll... one of my good male friends and room-mates.
keep in mind he did NOT DRINK last night this is how he is on a regular basis, he is really smart and REALLY STUPID!
he went to the store at 3am last night New years day, to get mayonnaise for work today.
that is your first clue He thought that he has to work on New years day...
NOPE!
he also doesn't do drugs. he is just a really dumb and lucky idiot.
the store closed at 10 pm and re opened at 6 am due to the holiday, it was also 4 degrees, at 3 am last night.
and he felt his keys in his pants pocket all last night as he was gaming on his machine (computer)
well when he went out he had no keys, well no household keys just car keys.
we are on the second floor. he went to go try the ladders that are locked up. they are locked due to the fact that the bums would steal and sell them, not that anyone would break in.
so being that he is smart he starts to look for a way in, he can't get me to open the door due to the fact that I sleep with ear plugs due to just such things, except they are always drunk and stupider. *update he had his phone on him and could of called J. but didn't want to piss him off.*
so he checks around the complex, and see a couple of really dangerous possibilities here is a picture of cave troll. ( here he is with Nappy on his lap last year, I still have Nappy I am a BAAAAAD girl)


he is not a little man he is 5'11" and about 275lbs, lets put it this, way he can lift me up.

so that being said remember when I said he had the car key? so he unplugs the car and turns it around and backs it up to the front balcony(WHICH IS ON ACCESSIBLE BY BEING IN THE BUILDING OR IF YA ARE SPIDER MAN.) keep in mind we live right next to the grocery store, and THE POLICE SUBSTATION!

he move the car. he goes and digs out a wooden pallet out of the frozen snow, from the back of the grocery store, which once again is next to the POLICE SUBSTATION...
he puts it on top of the car and crawls over the baloney, gets in to the building and gets his keys. goes back down and puts the car right and plugs it back in.
now drum roll please...
he did all the moving of the car with the front wind-shield being blocked by a cover like this

apparently the police were out getting the drunk people not the stupid people.

I do have to give him credit that he did get into the building and figured it out by himself, and he didn't break his neck, wreck the car, or end up in jail with a felony.

I love this guy he is like the little brother that will talk to me.

after telling me this he tells me not to tell J. (YEAH RIGHT)
J. has had a pinched nerve, for the last week, and is definitely cranky with reason.
he laughed so hard when he heard.
so while I was sleeping even sober people were doing stupid stuff!
Happy new years!
love and fishey fishes,
Adora

Partners Sculpt Each Other to Achieve Their Ideal Selves

Partners Sculpt Each Other to Achieve Their Ideal Selves: If Successful, Relationship Goes Well

ScienceDaily (Dec. 31, 2009) — Is that really Bob? You've seen him hundreds of mornings for the last 10 years at local coffee shops. Since he started dating Sara, he looks you in the eye -- and smiles. Sara takes every opportunity to let coffee shop cronies know that Bob is her guy and to gush about how funny he is. And he is. Who knew?

Think of Sara like Michelangelo chipping away at a block of marble to release the ideal figure slumbering within.

A new international review of seven papers on "the Michelangelo phenomenon" shows that when close partners affirm and support each other's ideal selves, they and the relationship benefit greatly.

"To the degree that the sculpting process has gone well, that you have helped mold me toward my ideal self, the relationship functions better and both partners are happier. And over the long term, I more or less come to reflect what my partner sees and elicits from me," said Eli Finkel, associate professor of psychology in the Weinberg College of Arts and Sciences at Northwestern University.

Finkel co-authored the review with Caryl E. Rusbult, Vrije Universiteit Amsterdam, and Madoka Kumashiro, Goldsmiths, University of London. "The Michelangelo Phenomenon" appears in the December issue of the journal Current Directions in Psychological Science.

The Michelangelo effect is not simply about supporting your partner, nor is it about promoting what you think your partner's ideal self should be. "Even if partners treat us in perfectly loving, supportive ways, if the treatment is not consistent with the person we dream of becoming, we have to pay attention to those red flags," Finkel warned. "Is that the person you want to be married to 10 years down the road?"

The Michelangelo studies show that close partners sculpt one another's traits and skills and promote, versus inhibit, one another's goal achievement. "It's not just that you treat me positively," Finkel said. "You treat me in particular ways that dovetail with my ideal self."

That's how Sara, an outgoing person with a great social network, brought Bob's best out in him. Sara made Bob more comfortable being the person he wanted to be. With Sara celebrating his ideal self, he became much funnier.

Just as the sculptor chisels, carves and polishes away flaws in the stone to reveal the ideal form, so do skillful partners support their loved ones' dreams, aspirations and the traits they hope to develop, such as completing medical school or becoming more fluent in a second language or more sociable.

Supporting a partner's image of his ideal self, whether it is a vague yearning or a clearly articulated mental representation, helps the loved one reduce the discrepancy between the actual self and the ideal self.

Sara consciously may interpret the disparities between Bob's actual self and ideal self in a benevolent way. She may help Bob become more sociable at a dinner party, for example, by subtly directing him to tell one of his most charming stories.

Conversely, a relationship can run into trouble when an individual emphasizes attributes that are peripheral to the core elements of what a partner ideally wishes to become. Take Mary, a leading researcher and a beauty. If she prizes her scholarly accomplishments above her physical virtues, she will feel disaffirmed when her partner affectionately refers to her as his "Colorado cutie." What that term of endearment represents could ultimately doom the relationship.

Some people such as Sara, who is so warm and empathic, are better sculptors than others and are particularly adept at bringing out others' ideal selves. Some individuals may be on the verge of achieving great personal growth and be open to any number of people who could help them. And others, the studies show, may have a much more difficult time bringing out someone's ideal self or be much more resistant to the Michelangelo effect.

The studies reviewed in the journal article used longitudinal procedures to examine how people grow toward their ideal selves over time as a result of how their partners treat them. At the beginning of the studies, individuals reported on their actual and their ideal selves, and their partners reported on how they view the individuals. To gain an external perspective, some studies incorporated the perspective of the individuals' friends. Across studies, individuals were especially likely to grow toward their ideal selves when their partners viewed them in line with this ideal. The process ultimately promoted both relational and personal well-being for both partners.

"When deciding on a life partner, we consider many factors," Finkel observed. "But we frequently neglect to think about whether the person I hope to be in 10 years is consistent with the person you want me to be in 10 years. When our partners can chisel and polish us in a way that helps us to achieve our ideal self, that's a wonderful thing."

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Adapted from materials provided by Northwestern University, via EurekAlert!, a service of AAAS.

Journal Reference:

1. . The Michelangelo Phenomenon. Current Directions in Psychological Science, December 2009

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